a vindication of the rights of woman-第31部分
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acquire more serious dignity; and be purified in its own fires; and virtue giving true delicacy to their affections; they would turn with disgust from a rake。 Reasoning then; as well as feeling; the only province of woman; at present; they might easily guard against exterior graces; and quickly learn to despise the sensibility that had been excited and hackneyed in the ways of women; whose trade was vice; and allurement's wanton airs。 They would recollect that the flame; (one must use appropriate expressions;) which they wished to light up; had been exhausted by lust; and that the sated appetite; losing all relish for pure and simple pleasures; could only be roused by licentious arts of variety。 What satisfaction could a woman of delicacy promise herself in a union with such a man; when the very artlessness of her affection might appear insipid? Thus does Dryden describe the situation: 〃Where love is duty on the female side; On theirs mere sensual gust; and sought with surly pride。〃 But one grand truth women have yet to learn; though much it imports them to act accordingly。 In the choice of a husband they should not be led astray by the qualities of a loverfor a lover the husband; even supposing him to be wise and virtuous; cannot long remain。 Were women more rationally educated; could they take a more comprehensive view of things; they would be contented to love but once in their lives; and after marriage calmly let passion subside into friendshipinto that tender intimacy; which is the best refuge from care; yet is built on such pure; still affections; that idle jealousies would not be allowed to disturb the discharge of the sober duties of life; nor to engross the thoughts that ought to be otherwise employed。 This is a state in which many men live; but few; very few women。 And the difference may easily be accounted for; without recurring to a sexual character。 Men; for whom we are told women are made; have too much occupied the thoughts of women; and this association has so entangled love; with all their motives of action; and; to harp a little on an old string; having been solely employed either to prepare themselves to excite love; or actually putting their lessons in practice; they cannot live without love。 But; when a sense of duty; or fear of shame; obliges them to restrain this pampered desire of pleasing beyond certain lengths; too far for delicacy; it is true; though far from criminality; they obstinately determine to love; I speak of their passion; their husbands to the end of the chapterand then acting the part which they foolishly exacted from their lovers; they become abject wooers; and fond slaves。 Men of wit and fancy are often rakes; and fancy is the food of love。 Such men will inspire passion。 Half the sex; in its present infantine state; would pine for a Lovelace; a man so witty; so graceful; and so valiant; and can they DESERVE blame for acting according to principles so constantly inculcated? They want a lover and protector: and behold him kneeling before thembravery prostrate to beauty! The virtues of a husband are thus thrown by love into the background; and gay hopes; or lively emotions; banish reflection till the day of reckoning comes; and come it surely will; to turn the sprightly lover into a surly suspicious tyrant; who contemptuously insults the very weakness he fostered。 Or; supposing the rake reformed; he cannot quickly get rid of old habits。 When a man of abilities is first carried away by his passions; it is necessary that sentiment and taste varnish the enormities of vice; and give a zest to brutal indulgences: but when the gloss of novelty is worn off; and pleasure palls upon the sense; lasciviousness becomes barefaced; and enjoyment only the desperate effort of weakness flying from reflection as from a legion of devils。 Oh! virtue; thou art not an empty name! All that life can give thou givest! If much comfort cannot be expected from the friendship of a reformed rake of superior abilities; what is the consequence when he lacketh sense; as well as principles? Verily misery in its most hideous shape。 When the habits of weak people are consolidated by time; a reformation is barely possible; and actually makes the beings miserable who have not sufficient mind to be amused by innocent pleasure; like the tradesman who retires from the hurry of business; nature presents to them only a universal blank; and the restless thoughts prey on the damped spirits。 Their reformation as well as his retirement actually makes them wretched; because it deprives them of all employment; by quenching the hopes and fears that set in motion their sluggish minds。 If such be the force of habit; if such be the bondage of folly; how carefully ought we to guard the mind from storing up vicious associations; and equally careful should we be to cultivate the understanding; to save the poor wight from the weak dependent state of even harmless ignorance。 For it is the right use of reason alone which makes us independent of every thingexcepting the unclouded Reason〃Whose service is perfect freedom。〃
CHAPTER 7。 MODESTY COMPREHENSIVELY CONSIDERED AND NOT AS A SEXUAL VIRTUE。 Modesty! Sacred offspring of sensibility and reason! true delicacy of mind! may I unblamed presume to investigate thy nature; and trace to its covert the mild charm; that mellowing each harsh feature of a character; renders what would otherwise only inspire cold admirationlovely! Thou that smoothest the wrinkles of wisdom; and softenest the tone of the more sublime virtues till they all melt into humanity! thou that spreadest the ethereal cloud that surrounding love heightens every beauty; it half shades; breathing those coy sweets that steal into the heart; and charm the sensesmodulate for me the language of persuasive reason; till I rouse my sex from the flowery bed; on which they supinely sleep life away! In speaking of the association of our ideas; I have noticed two distinct modes; and in defining modesty; it appears to me equally proper to discriminate that purity of mind; which is the effect of chastity; from a simplicity of character that leads us to form a just opinion of ourselves; equally distant from vanity or presumption; though by no means incompatible with a lofty consciousness of our own dignity。 Modesty in the latter signification of the term; is that soberness of mind which teaches a man not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; and should be distinguished from humility; because humility is a kind of self…abasement。 A modest man often conceives a great plan; and tenaciously adheres to it; conscious of his own strength; till success gives it a sanction that determines its character。 Milton was not arrogant when he suffered a suggestion of judgment to escape him that proved a prophesy; nor was General Washington when he accepted of the command of the American forces。 The latter has always been characterized as a modest man; but had he been merely humble; he would probably have shrunk back irresolute; afraid of trusting to himself the direction of an enterprise on which so much depended。 A modest man is steady; an humble man timid; and a vain one presumptuous; this is the judgment; which the observation of many characters; has led me to form。 Jesus Christ was modest; Moses was humble; and Peter vain。 Thus discriminating modesty from humility in one case; I do not mean to confound it with bashfulness in the other。 Bashfulness; in fact; is so distinct from modesty; that the most bashful lass; or raw country lout; often becomes the most impudent; for their bashfulness being merely the instinctive timidity of ignorance; custom soon changes it into assurance。* (*Footnote。 〃Such is the country…maiden's fright; When first a red…coat is in sight; Behind the door she hides her face; Next time at distance eyes the lace: She now can all his terrors stand; Nor from his squeeze withdraws her hand; She plays familiar in his arms; And every soldier hath his charms; 》From tent to tent she spreads her flame; For custom conquers fear and shame。〃) The shameless behaviour of the prostitutes who infest the streets of London; raising alternate emotions of pity and disgust; may serve to illustrate this remark。 They trample on virgin bashfulness with a sort of bravado; and glorying in their shame; become more audaciously lewd than men; however depraved; to whom the sexual quality has not been gratuitously granted; ever appear to be。 But these poor ignorant wretches never had any modesty to lose; when they consigned themselves to infamy; for modesty is a virtue not a quality。 No; they were only bashful; shame…faced innocents; and losing their innocence; their shame…facedness was rudely brushed off; a virtue would have left some vestiges in the mind; had it been sacrificed to passion; to make us respect the grand ruin。 Purity of mind; or that genuine delicacy; which is the only virtuous support of chastity; is near a…kin to that refinement of humanity; which never resides in any but cultivated minds。 It is something nobler than innocence; it is the delicacy of reflection; and not the coyness of ignorance。 The reserve of reason; which like habitual cleanliness; is seldom seen in any great degree; unless the soul is active; may easily be distinguished from rustic shyness or wanton skittishness; and so far from being incompatible with knowledge; it is its fairest fruit。 What a gross idea of modesty had the writer of the following remark! 〃The lady who asked the question whether women may be instructed in the modern system of botany; consistently with female delicacy?〃 was accused of ridiculous prudery: nevertheless; if she had proposed the question to me; I should certainly have answeredThey cannot。〃 Thus is the fair book of knowledge to be shut with an everlasting seal! On reading similar passages I have reverentially lifted up my eyes and heart to Him who liveth for ever and ever; and said; O my Father; hast Thou by the very constitution of her nature forbid Thy child to seek Thee in the fair forms of truth? And; can her soul be sullied by the knowledge that awfully calls her to Thee? I have then philosophically pursued these reflections till I inferred; that those women who have most improved their reason must have the most m