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ire elicited whatever powers I had to gratify it�察�and where I could not perhaps shine in the first�察�enabled me�察�at least�察�to shine in a second or third sphere。 By these means I soon grew in fashion�察�and when a man is once in fashion�察�all he does is right。 It was infinite pleasure to me to find my own fashion and popularity。 I was sent for to all parties of pleasure�察�both of men or women�察�where�察�in some measure�察�I gave the 'ton'。 This gave me the reputation of having had some women of condition�察�and that reputation�察�whether true or false�察�really got me others。 With the men I was a Proteus�察�and assumed every shape�察�in order to please them all�此�among the gay�察�I was the gayest�察�among the grave�察�the gravest�察�and I never omitted the least attentions of good´breeding�察�or the least offices of friendship�察�that could either please�察�or attach them to me�此�and accordingly I was soon connected with all the men of any fashion or figure in town。
To this principle of vanity�察�which philosophers call a mean one�察�and which I do not�察�I owe great part of the figure which I have made in life。 I wish you had as much�察�but I fear you have too little of it�察�and you seem to have a degree of laziness and listlessness about you that makes you indifferent as to general applause。 This is not in character at your age�察�and would be barely pardonable in an elderly and philosophical man。 It is a vulgar�察�ordinary saying�察�but it is a very true one�察�that one should always put the best foot foremost。 One should please�察�shine�察�and dazzle�察�wherever it is possible。 At Paris�察�I am sure you must observe 'que chacun se fait valoir autant qu'il est possible'�察�and La Bruyere observes�察�very justly�察�qu'on ne vaut dans ce monde que ce qu'on veut valoir'�此�wherever applause is in question�察�you will never see a French man�察�nor woman�察�remiss or negligent。 Observe the eternal attentions and politeness that all people have there for one another。 'Ce n'est pas pour leurs beaux yeux au moins'。 No�察�but for their own sakes�察�for commendations and applause。 Let me then recommend this principle of vanity to you�察�act upon it 'meo periculo'�察�I promise you it will turn to your account。 Practice all the arts that ever coquette did�察�to please。 Be alert and indefatigable in making every man admire�察�and every woman in love with you。 I can tell you too�察�that nothing will carry you higher in the world。
I have had no letter from you since your arrival at Paris�察�though you must have been long enough there to have written me two or three。 In about ten or twelve days I propose leaving this place�察�and going to London�察�I have found considerable benefit by my stay here�察�but not all that I want。 Make my compliments to Lord Albemarle。
LETTER CLXXXIII
BATH�察�November 28�察�1752
MY DEAR FRIEND�此�Since my last to you�察�I have read Madame Maintenon's ;Letters;�察�I am sure they are genuine�察�and they both entertained and informed me。 They have brought me acquainted with the character of that able and artful lady�察�whom I am convinced that I now know much better than her directeur the Abby de Fenelon ��afterward Archbishop of Cambray�� did�察�when he wrote her the 185th letter�察�and I know him the better too for that letter。 The Abby�察�though brimful of the divine love�察�had a great mind to be first minister�察�and cardinal�察�in order�察�NO DOUBT�察�to have an opportunity of doing the more good。 His being 'directeur' at that time to Madame Maintenon�察�seemed to be a good step toward those views。 She put herself upon him for a saint�察�and he was weak enough to believe it�察�he�察�on the other hand�察�would have put himself upon her for a saint too�察�which�察�I dare say�察�she did not believe�察�but both of them knew that it was necessary for them to appear saints to Lewis the Fourteenth�察�who they were very sure was a bigot。 It is to be presumed�察�nay�察�indeed�察�it is plain by that 185th letter that Madame Maintenon had hinted to her directeur some scruples of conscience�察�with relation to her commerce with the King�察�and which I humbly apprehend to have been only some scruples of prudence�察�at once to flatter the bigot character�察�and increase the desires of the King。 The pious Abbe�察�frightened out of his wits�察�lest the King should impute to the 'directeur' any scruples or difficulties which he might meet with on the part of the lady�察�writes her the above´ mentioned letter�察�in which he not only bids her not tease the King by advice and exhortations�察�but to have the utmost submission to his will�察�and�察�that she may not mistake the nature of that submission�察�he tells her it is the same that Sarah had for Abraham�察�to which submission Isaac perhaps was owing。 No bawd could have written a more seducing letter to an innocent country girl�察�than the 'directeur' did to his 'penitente'�察�who I dare say had no occasion for his good advice。 Those who would justify the good 'directeur'�察�alias the pimp�察�in this affair�察�must not attempt to do it by saying that the King and Madame Maintenon were at that time privately married�察�that the directeur knew it�察�and that this was the meaning of his 'enigme'。 That is absolutely impossible�察�for that private marriage must have removed all scruples between the parties�察�nay�察�could not have been contracted upon any other principle�察�since it was kept private�察�and consequently prevented no public scandal。 It is therefore extremely evident that Madame Maintenon could not be married to the King at the time when she scrupled granting�察�and when the 'directeur' advised her to grant�察�those favors which Sarah with so much submission granted to Abraham�此�and what the 'directeur' is pleased to call 'le mystere de Dieu'�察�was most evidently a state of concubinage。 The letters are very well worth your reading�察�they throw light upon many things of those times。
I have just received a letter from Sir William Stanhope�察�from Lyons�察�in which he tells me that he saw you at Paris�察�that he thinks you a little grown�察�but that you do not make the most of it�察�for that you stoop still�此�'d'ailleurs' his letter was a panegyric of you。
The young Comte de Schullemburg�察�the Chambellan whom you knew at Hanover�察�is come over with the King�察�'et fait aussi vos eloges'。
Though�察�as I told you in my last�察�I have done buying pictures�察�by way of 'virtu'�察�yet there are some portraits of remarkable people that would tempt me。 For instance�察�if you could by chance pick up at Paris�察�at a reasonable price�察�and undoubted originals ��whether heads�察�half lengths�察�or whole lengths�察�no matter�� of Cardinals Richelieu�察�Mazarin�察�and Retz�察�Monsieur de Turenne�察�le grand Prince de Condo �察�Mesdames de Montespan�察�de Fontanges�察�de Montbazon�察�de Sevigne�察�de Maintenon�察�de Chevreuse�察�de Longueville�察�d'Olonne�察�etc。�察�I should be tempted to purchase them。 I am sensible that they can only be met with�察�by great accident�察�at family sales and auctions�察�so I only mention the affair to you eventually。
I do not understand�察�or else I do not remember�察�what affair you mean in your last letter�察�which you think will come to nothing�察�and for which�察�you say�察�I had once a mind that you should take the road again。 Explain it to me。
I shall go to town in four or five days�察�and carry back with me a little more hearing than I brought�察�but yet�察�not half enough for common wants。 One wants ready pocket´money much oftener than one wants great sums�察�and to use a very odd expression�察�I want to hear at sight。 I love every´day senses�察�every´day wit and entertainment�察�a man who is only good on holydays is good for very little。 Adieu。
LETTER CLXXXIV
Christmas Day�察�1752
MY DEAR FRIEND�此�A tyrant with legions at his com mand may say�察�Oderint modo timeant�察�though he is a fool if he says it�察�and a greater fool if he thinks it。 But a private man who can hurt but few�察�though he can please many�察�must endeavor to be loved�察�for he cannot be feared in general。 Popularity is his only rational and sure foundation。 The good´will�察�the affections�察�the love of the public�察�can alone raise him to any considerable height。 Should you ask me how he is to acquire them�察�I will answer�察�By desiring them。 No man ever deserved�察�who did not desire them�察�and no man both deserved and desired them who had them not�察�though many have enjoyed them merely by desiring�察�and without deserving them。 You do not imagine�察�I believe�察�that I mean by this public love the sentimental love of either lovers or intimate friends�察�no�察�that is of another nature�察�and confined to a very narrow circle�察�but I mean that general good´will which a man may acquire in the world�察�by the arts of pleasing respectively exerted according to the rank�察�the situation�察�and the turn of mind of those whom he hath to do with。 The pleasing impressions which he makes upon them will engage their affections and their good wishes�察�and even their good offices as far ��that is�� as they are not inconsistent with their own interests�察�for further than that you are not to expect from three people in the course of your life�察�even were it extended to the patriarchal term。 Could I revert to the age of twenty�察�and carry back with me all the experience that forty years more have taught me�察�I can assure you�察�that I would employ much the greatest part of my time in engaging the good´will�察�and in insinuating myself into the predilection of people in general�察�instead of directing my endeavors to please ��as I was too apt to do�� to the man whom I immediately wanted�察�or the woman I wished for�察�exclusively of all others。 For if one happens ��and it will sometimes happen to the ablest man�� to fail in his views with that man or that woman�察�one is at a loss to know whom to address one's self to next�察�having offended in general�察�by that exclusive and distinguished particular application。 I would secure a general refuge in the good´will of the multitude�察�which is a great strength to any man�察�for both ministers and mistresses choose popular and fashionable favorites。 A man who solicits a minister�察�backed by the general good´will and good wishes of mankind�察�solicits with great weight and great probability of success�察�and a woman is strangely biassed in favor of a man whom she sees in fashion�察�and hears everybody speak well of。 This useful art of insinuation consists merely of various little things。 A graceful motion�察�a significant look�察�a trifling attention�察�an obli